Tea Time with Hil

Happy Thursday! Clearly there is no rhyme or reason to when I post at this point. When I first started, I had this whole structured plan but that seemed a bit too stuffy, so now I post what feels good, when it feels right! Anyhow, I thought it would be interesting to share 20 random facts about myself. I seem that see that as a common post on most blogs, and a fun read! Here we go... My fiancé and I met because we were best friends in high school. We started dating our senior year and have been together for over 10 years. The day we get married this year will be 11!  I have a 5 1/2 year old Dog, who I still refer to as my Pup. He's a Schnauzer/Terrier mix and he's the biggest diva I know lol.  I love crafting, which I'm pretty sure I inherited from my Mom. She's really into restoring furniture and sewing. I prefer knitting best, but I don't discriminate.  Remember the show Glee? That was me in Middle School & High School. I was an all out Choir Girl and t...

I just realized we are already almost through the month of January, which is insane! I feel that I've gotten off to a good start this month, I had a few rough patches but who doesn't! With that being said, there have been a few things that have made this month even more worth while and sparked joy for me that I thought I'd share. Nurse Jackie  - This is a Showtime Series that came out a decade ago but man it's good. It is currently on Netflix. Think about a Register Nurse, who is secretly addicted to pills... but seems to be holding it all together, at least most of the time. I started watching this last week and I am already on season 6. Episodes are only 22 minutes or so, so it's a quick watch.  Heartstrings - The new Dolly Parton series on Netflix, which happens to be amazing! I loved this series so much. Basically Dolly took her songs and created an hour episode based on the lyrics. I'm hoping she makes more episodes for this series, because she has a LO...

Happy Tuesday! Last week I finally did something I've been debating for months. I kept going back and forth in my mind. Should I do this? Do I really want to close that door for good? Is this super petty? The truth is, I'm big on closure and when I don't have any type of closure, I struggle moving on completely . My former friend of 4 years randomly walked out of my life over a year ago now. Yes, I was ghosted. And no, nothing happened to cause the ghosting. I really don't get how to you do that someone, especially after nothing happened? So again, back to closure. I deleted said-ghosted friend off of all social media platforms. I NEEDED closure and this was about the only way I was going to get any from her. I think the icing on the cake was her post 2-3 weeks ago that said something along the lines of "it's great having TRUE friends" . My thought was, as if the friends you had weren't "TRUE" enough, apparently you have moved on and now...

So, in the spirit of it being a New Year and a New Decade I've been thinking about what word I hope defines this year for me. What feeling do I want to get out of 2020? Granted, I've never done a word of the year before but I've seen posts on social media and thought the concept was interesting. Let's be real, anything that will spark some type of inspiration, I'm interested (within limits of course). I attempted to do this last year, but by the time it came back to my mind, the year was half way over and I felt the tone had already been set. Which it hadn't, you can always change the tone but that's what I thought at the time. So here I am, 7 days into 2020, ready to pick my word of the year. In my last post, I talked a lot about not sweating the small stuff this year (okay, I actually said not giving a fuck but I was a little sassy when I wrote that) and doing what makes me happy! This gets lost in translation a lot for me, because life happens. I t...

Well, here we are, a week into 2020. Wow. New Year, New Decade. A whole new blank slate to have a bigger, better year than the one before. I left 2019 feeling a bit, done. I was mentally and emotionally exhausted and on top of that I got my first cold in 5 years, yes, FIVE! Luckily, I work for a school, so we got 2 weeks off and I was able to rest. Resting is not my thing, so this was hard. The only downfall is, there's nothing like having time off work and having to get back into a routine after sleeping in til 10am for 2 weeks. I feel like I've been waiting for 2020 for a while now, being that this is the year I get married and move into my new home! Lots of big, wonderful changes are coming my way. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't a little nervous, not to get married but just hoping everything falls into place and all the things we've been planning for the last two years (like our wedding) goes smoothly and stress free. DID YOU HEAR THAT UNIVERSE, STRESS FREE....

I don't know about you, but I'm always thinking of new Date Night ideas! My guy and I have been together over 10 years, so we've been on a LOT of dates together.  Just for the sake of keeping things fresh for the New Year, I did some research of Date Ideas, and a lot of them won't break the bank! In the end, it's all about spending time together anyway, right? I highlighted some that we do often as well! Happy Holiday's and Happy Date Night: Go out for desert Take a nice drive Go walking Go to the park Go to dinner at a new place Play a game Movie night at home Cook a nice meal together Go see a Play Mini Golf Bowling Go-karts Laser Tag Horseback Riding  Crafting (Painting with a twist or pottery painting) Recreate your first date Bake Something Find a new show to binge Go see a new movie Jam to your favorite songs Watch funny YouTube videos Plan your next trip Make a bucket list  Go on a picnic Have a bonfire Look at old phot...

So, I've been on this whole goal setting kick, which you'd know if you'd been following along with me the past few months. One may ask, how hard is it to set a goal? It's super easy to sit down and make a goal, but the hard part is the follow through. I ask myself often, why is that? Why do we have such a hard time following through with goals that WE set for ourselves? After doing some research (Pinterest of course) on the topic I found some tips & tricks that finally gave me some guidelines on the mistakes we make when setting goals. In knowing the mistakes, I then figured out how to effectively set a goal. Basically there's a method to the madness. If you really, REALLY want to be better at goal setting and actually check things off your list next year, this may be helpful. Or maybe you can find other ways to implement these tips in your life. Here are the Mistakes we should Avoid when Goal Setting: Thinking too Small - Don't limit yourself. T...