Happy Tuesday! Last week I finally did something I've been debating for months. I kept going back and forth in my mind. Should I do this? Do I really want to close that door for good? Is this super petty?
The truth is, I'm big on closure and when I don't have any type of closure, I struggle moving on completely. My former friend of 4 years randomly walked out of my life over a year ago now. Yes, I was ghosted. And no, nothing happened to cause the ghosting. I really don't get how to you do that someone, especially after nothing happened?
So again, back to closure. I deleted said-ghosted friend off of all social media platforms. I NEEDED closure and this was about the only way I was going to get any from her. I think the icing on the cake was her post 2-3 weeks ago that said something along the lines of "it's great having TRUE friends". My thought was, as if the friends you had weren't "TRUE" enough, apparently you have moved on and now I need to do the same.
She weirdly wrote Happy Birthday on my Facebook wall at 3am a few months ago, aside from that, no other communication. I remember not knowing what to think of that. Like, thanks for acknowledging my birthday but where TF have you been?
I mean, there's only so many times your going to text someone and ask them to hangout or connect, and they respond once and then you never hear from them again. I got sick of reaching out and being rejected. Granted, I could text her now, I'm sure some of you are thinking. But text her and say what? There's nothing to say that wouldn't resort to me being even more hurt and pissed off. I guess I thought we were better friends than this. I honestly thought said-ghosted person was one of my best friends (which I don't use lightly). I thought if she did have something going on, she would've told me instead of just ghosting me and our friend group. I guess not. Noted.
So I did what I needed to do to finally move on. I deleted her. I don't feel she deserves to see what's going on in my life at this point. I don't need a once a year happy birthday from her. And I really don't want to see her shady posts about her new true friends. Some may think it's petty but I found it therapeutic. It's amazing how something so small can give you the closure you need.
I shut the door. She shut the door a year ago but left it cracked open, so she can pop in and out. Well, I shut it. I'm not interested in someone having one foot in and one foot out of the door. Sometimes it's good to do a social media purge. If your scrolling down your timeline and you don't feel good about what you see, delete or unfollow them. Especially if it's not someone you talk to anymore or some random celeb's page who won't even notice. Do what makes you feel good. One day at a time.
The truth is, I'm big on closure and when I don't have any type of closure, I struggle moving on completely. My former friend of 4 years randomly walked out of my life over a year ago now. Yes, I was ghosted. And no, nothing happened to cause the ghosting. I really don't get how to you do that someone, especially after nothing happened?
So again, back to closure. I deleted said-ghosted friend off of all social media platforms. I NEEDED closure and this was about the only way I was going to get any from her. I think the icing on the cake was her post 2-3 weeks ago that said something along the lines of "it's great having TRUE friends". My thought was, as if the friends you had weren't "TRUE" enough, apparently you have moved on and now I need to do the same.
She weirdly wrote Happy Birthday on my Facebook wall at 3am a few months ago, aside from that, no other communication. I remember not knowing what to think of that. Like, thanks for acknowledging my birthday but where TF have you been?
I mean, there's only so many times your going to text someone and ask them to hangout or connect, and they respond once and then you never hear from them again. I got sick of reaching out and being rejected. Granted, I could text her now, I'm sure some of you are thinking. But text her and say what? There's nothing to say that wouldn't resort to me being even more hurt and pissed off. I guess I thought we were better friends than this. I honestly thought said-ghosted person was one of my best friends (which I don't use lightly). I thought if she did have something going on, she would've told me instead of just ghosting me and our friend group. I guess not. Noted.
So I did what I needed to do to finally move on. I deleted her. I don't feel she deserves to see what's going on in my life at this point. I don't need a once a year happy birthday from her. And I really don't want to see her shady posts about her new true friends. Some may think it's petty but I found it therapeutic. It's amazing how something so small can give you the closure you need.
I shut the door. She shut the door a year ago but left it cracked open, so she can pop in and out. Well, I shut it. I'm not interested in someone having one foot in and one foot out of the door. Sometimes it's good to do a social media purge. If your scrolling down your timeline and you don't feel good about what you see, delete or unfollow them. Especially if it's not someone you talk to anymore or some random celeb's page who won't even notice. Do what makes you feel good. One day at a time.
"In life we never lose friends, we just find out who our true friends are."
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