Happy Monday! The weekend flew by, per usual, and here we are with a new week ahead. Over the past few weeks I have been thinking a lot of about the year ahead and working through unsuccessful goals I set for 2019. Ultimately, I'm hoping to restructure how I set goals, so that 2020 will be an even better year.
First off, I have to stop setting unrealistic goals. Sometimes I go into the year biting off more than I can chew. For 2020, I'm hoping to set simple goals that are effective and yet obtainable. So I asked myself, why did most of my 2019 goals fail? After a few weeks of soul searching, I realized it was because I put way too much pressure on myself. I have to start thinking about what goals will really benefit me and my mental health, but also which goals will make ME happy. I have to set priorities and ask myself, what's important?!
Often times I set goals like, workout every day... then I look back like, sure, I'm totally going to go from barely working out at all to working out everyday. That's an unrealistic goal lol. But what I can say is, work out 2-3 days a week doing something I enjoy. So instead of pressuring myself to do a ton of cardio that I hate, maybe start off with walking or yoga (I do love yoga).
Another goal I set was to read my entire bible this year... and for someone who isn't big on reading that was a total unrealistic goal. While I have made great strides in my scripture reading, no way was I getting through the whole things in 365 days. So instead, I will start breaking down so many sections per day, and in time I will finish! Why rush is anyway? This is something I need to be taking in and absorbing to grow in faith, not rush the process.
My last unrealistic goal was to only eat so many calories per day. I mainly started this to be healthier, but it's not practical and some days I just naturally eat more than others. And that's okay. A more realistic goal is to be healthier in general, and focus more on listening to my body and how it reacts to things I eat, instead of limiting myself daily. Some days I may eat salad and some days I may eat a coney dog. Everything in moderation!
I guess my point is, making goals is always great but in 2020 I wants to make goals I can actually complete and feel good about. Not goals that I know won't be able to achieve and then have regrets later. How can I challenge myself to be better, without making myself feel worse by having a ton of failed goals? It's not always about going big, sometimes going simple is fine too! It's about cheering yourself on. Some days you'll fall short but it's about what makes you feel good and what is in reach! Baby Steps is what I keep telling myself. That's how I hope to head into 2020, with a clean slate of realistic goals that will help me grow as a person without tearing myself down. It also helps to have someone who holds you accountable, and vise versa. You don't have to do it alone!
Of course, we still have a few months of 2019. But I tend to think ahead and I'm glad I'm doing the self work now, so that I can be successful next year. In the upcoming weeks, I plan to continue to ask myself what are realistic goals that will help me grow and then make a plan to achieve it. I'm going to start looking at the word "goals" totally different. And I think I will be better for it in the end. To be continued...
First off, I have to stop setting unrealistic goals. Sometimes I go into the year biting off more than I can chew. For 2020, I'm hoping to set simple goals that are effective and yet obtainable. So I asked myself, why did most of my 2019 goals fail? After a few weeks of soul searching, I realized it was because I put way too much pressure on myself. I have to start thinking about what goals will really benefit me and my mental health, but also which goals will make ME happy. I have to set priorities and ask myself, what's important?!
Often times I set goals like, workout every day... then I look back like, sure, I'm totally going to go from barely working out at all to working out everyday. That's an unrealistic goal lol. But what I can say is, work out 2-3 days a week doing something I enjoy. So instead of pressuring myself to do a ton of cardio that I hate, maybe start off with walking or yoga (I do love yoga).
Another goal I set was to read my entire bible this year... and for someone who isn't big on reading that was a total unrealistic goal. While I have made great strides in my scripture reading, no way was I getting through the whole things in 365 days. So instead, I will start breaking down so many sections per day, and in time I will finish! Why rush is anyway? This is something I need to be taking in and absorbing to grow in faith, not rush the process.
My last unrealistic goal was to only eat so many calories per day. I mainly started this to be healthier, but it's not practical and some days I just naturally eat more than others. And that's okay. A more realistic goal is to be healthier in general, and focus more on listening to my body and how it reacts to things I eat, instead of limiting myself daily. Some days I may eat salad and some days I may eat a coney dog. Everything in moderation!
I guess my point is, making goals is always great but in 2020 I wants to make goals I can actually complete and feel good about. Not goals that I know won't be able to achieve and then have regrets later. How can I challenge myself to be better, without making myself feel worse by having a ton of failed goals? It's not always about going big, sometimes going simple is fine too! It's about cheering yourself on. Some days you'll fall short but it's about what makes you feel good and what is in reach! Baby Steps is what I keep telling myself. That's how I hope to head into 2020, with a clean slate of realistic goals that will help me grow as a person without tearing myself down. It also helps to have someone who holds you accountable, and vise versa. You don't have to do it alone!
Of course, we still have a few months of 2019. But I tend to think ahead and I'm glad I'm doing the self work now, so that I can be successful next year. In the upcoming weeks, I plan to continue to ask myself what are realistic goals that will help me grow and then make a plan to achieve it. I'm going to start looking at the word "goals" totally different. And I think I will be better for it in the end. To be continued...
"You can do it, put your back into it"
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